Aggressive women make it too easy for men

 Do men really like aggressive women when it comes to love?

I hate getting into these conversations with men in fear of sounding like a narrow-minded traditionalist, but nonetheless, I put on my boxing gloves and jump into the ring.

This week, in an attempt to play matchmaker, I was told that Guy X really liked and wanted an aggressive woman. Ding-ding, ring the bell. Round 1.

I wanted to know what it was about aggressive women that turned him on. I was told he liked women who took charge.

Cop out! You like women who do all the work for you is how I see it.

I took this discussion to a few of my male friends and this is what I discovered. Some men like aggressive women, some don’t – but most do. These are some of the responses I got.

“It keeps men from feeling rejected and removes the shyness they may have,” said one man, who is obviously shy.

“It cuts through all the chase,” said another man who appears to cut corners.

“I like being pursued sometimes, too,” said yet another man who clearly lacks drive.

“Men find them attractive because it’s less work for them,” said yet another man who clearly lacks energy.

Well, I say anything worth having is worth fighting for, chasing after, working toward and pursuing with full vigor.

The world is definitely changing. More women are heads of household, and more women are advancing in the workplace and making more money than their male counterparts. This authority is spilling over into love and relationships.

I’m all for girl power to the 10^th power. But I still believe when it comes to love, the man should be the hunter, the predator. It’s a spiritual structure that is hard for me to vacate.

I’m one of those who still believe in courtship. If a man wants to be with a woman, he should woo her with romantic gestures and make her feel like she is the only woman in the world. He should put his best foot forward in getting that first date and keeping her interested.

Call me old fashioned or a hopeless romantic, but my happily ever after will begin with boy meets girl – not the other way around. Heck, I still shiver at the thought of asking a guy to dance.

Men who like aggressive women appear to settle for what comes to them rather than going after what they want or what God has set before them. It’s a lazy approach to love.

If they only knew that once they court a woman the right way, a lady will unleash her aggressiveness at the right times.