Do men really
like aggressive women when it comes to love?
I hate getting into these conversations with men in
fear of sounding like a narrow-minded traditionalist, but nonetheless, I put on
my boxing gloves and jump into the ring.
This week, in an attempt to play matchmaker, I was
told that Guy X really liked and wanted an aggressive woman. Ding-ding, ring the bell. Round 1.
I wanted to know what it was about aggressive women
that turned him on. I was told he liked women who took charge.
Cop out! You like women who do all the work for you
is how I see it.
I took this discussion to a few of my male friends
and this is what I discovered. Some men like aggressive women, some don’t – but
most do. These are some of the responses I got.
“It keeps men from feeling rejected and removes the
shyness they may have,” said one man, who is obviously shy.
“It cuts through all the chase,” said another man
who appears to cut corners.
“I like being pursued sometimes, too,” said yet another
man who clearly lacks drive.
“Men find them attractive because it’s less work for
them,” said yet another man who clearly lacks energy.
Well, I say anything worth having is worth fighting
for, chasing after, working toward and pursuing with full vigor.
The world is definitely changing. More women are
heads of household, and more women are advancing in the workplace and making
more money than their male counterparts. This authority is spilling over into love
and relationships.
I’m all for girl power to the 10th power.
But I still believe when it comes to love, the man should be the hunter, the
predator. It’s a spiritual structure that is hard for me to vacate.
I’m one of those who still believe in courtship. If
a man wants to be with a woman, he should woo her with romantic gestures and
make her feel like she is the only woman in the world. He should put his best
foot forward in getting that first date and keeping her interested.
Call me old fashioned or a hopeless romantic, but my
happily ever after will begin with boy meets girl – not the other way around.
Heck, I still shiver at the thought of asking a guy to dance.
Men who like aggressive women appear to settle for
what comes to them rather than going after what they want or what God has set
before them. It’s a lazy approach to love.
If they only knew that once they court a woman the
right way, a lady will unleash her aggressiveness at the right times.
